Info for Slaves

Recently, I’ve been receiving a lot of requests from men wanting to serve me. “Let me be your house boy. Let me be your submissive. Mistress, tell me what I can possibly do to earn your favor.” This is becoming increasingly frustrating because, when I give them an honest answer: book a paid session with me in the dungeon and/or come socialize and maybe play with me at a fetish event, they tend to become reluctant and back off. I have a very good reason for making this request. I want to learn if you are trustworthy and reliable and what you are capable of while certain boundaries are still in place.

It is very kind of you to offer to take me out for coffee or cocktails and I’m sure we can learn a lot by talking. This is a fine idea for a first meeting. But, being in scene brings out a whole different side to one’s personality and I choose to experience that for the first time in a semi-controlled and protected environment. You think that I’m going to allow a total or near stranger to come into my house alone and engage in what many people view as a highly sexualized activity? Eeeeh! WRONG! If you don’t care to play and just want to be my housekeeper, errand boy, or chauffer, this obviously doesn’t apply to you, though you will still need to undergo a fair amount of screening before I share the location of my home with you. But, if you want to play with me, you WILL accept the restrictions I put in place for my own safety.

Also, in these letters, the word relationship gets thrown around a lot but it’s incredibly vague. If you mean some kind of romantic or sexual relationship I’m not going to be very keen, you see, I’ve already got one. Seven and a half years running too. Why would I want to change? I can already guess your next question. So why am I a dominatrix then? Go back and read my entries about whether BDSM is sexual or not and what I’m getting out of it. This is another reason why I insist on conduction my scenes in a professional or public setting. To ensure no one makes the mistake or viewing them as some kind of prelude to sexual activity. No matter how many years you reliably session with me or how devotedly you serve me, you will never get to have any kind of sexual interaction with me. I am TAKEN.

That being said, I do want to have a “relationship” with my subs, in the sense that I want ongoing interactions with them that develop over time and to come to know them and what makes them tick. After all, one of my favorite things is to get inside my subs’ heads and tailor my interactions to their specific psychological proclivities. In me you will not find a lover, but you may find a friend, a spiritual guide, or a compassionate yet demanding mistress.

INTRODUCTORY QUESTIONAIRE

Please answer the following questions to show your sincerity and to give me a basic idea of what dynamic I might expect from our interactions. I won’t say there are no wrong answers but there isn’t a specific right answer either. So indulge me. After all, if you want to serve me, you’ll be doing that a lot. Send answers in whatever medium you normally used to communicate with me.

1. Why do you want to serve me? By this, I mean, why do you want to serve me as opposed to some other mistress? Please be specific. I’m asking you to prove to me that you are interested in me as an individual rather than in the idea of serving a generic mistress.

2. What can you offer me as sub? Here, do not offer me things that YOU want from me, as in don’t offer to let me flog you or to give me foot worship if that is your personal fetish. What I’m looking for here is any skills, abilities, connections, etc that you possess and are willing to use in my service, or tasks that other subs might not be willing to do. For example, are you willing to do house (straight up housework, not role-play or anything? Have you had any massage training? Can you cook? Do hair?

3. What do you expect from me as your mistress? I know that sub’s sole desire is supposed to be to please and serve his mistress, but I don’t buy it. Let’s stay grounded in the real world for a moment. I don’t actually ‘own’ you, whatever happens in our fantasies. You need something to make this fulfilling for you and, if you don’t get it, you will be on your way. I want to know that is before getting in to anything. I want to make sure I am able to make this a fulfilling experience for you as well.